Have you ever found yourself wanting to help a friend, and not known what you should or shouldn't say?
"MAYBE" it will help.
"MAYBE" it won't.
"MAYBE" I'm overstepping my bounds.
The nervousness that comes from speaking into someone's situation is natural, normal, and completely understandable.
I want to share something simple with you today that has helped me to navigate those moments when I find myself in them.
We have two eyes, two ears, two hands, two feet, & one mouth for a reason.
When I'm "on my game"...when I feel like I'm being a good friend, and offering genuine value to the relationships I'm in...I see, listen, and do twice as much as I speak.
We need to see things from their point of view.
We need to listen to their heart.
We need to carry whatever load we can for them.
We need to simply be present, and willing to walk with them.
Notice that none of the above examples mentioned saying a single word.
Sometimes the best advice we can give someone isn't spoken at all.
Our friendship, delivered simply by our presence, is the foundation of trust that conversations are eventually built on. When we race to the scene of someone's trouble, speaking before we are hardly through the door, we've missed the point entirely.
I mentioned #TheMVPLife yesterday when we were talking about how our struggles can become our strength.
We don't need to flex those muscles the moment we walk in the room.
Sit. Wait. See. Listen. Carry. Walk. Serve.
Seven words that will make the perfect time to share words obvious, helpful, and full of the encouragement our friends are looking for in our friendship.
"...it MAY BE that..." words aren't as important as we think they are.
True...we need to choose which ones we share wisely.
But the old adage, "less is more"?
That's a foundation of authenticity we can build relationships on intentionally.
And when it comes time to actually say something...what do we say?
More on that...tomorrow.
brett w. gould
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